RESET Your Parenting
Parents Need To Worry Less About Happiness and More About Godliness
2 Timothy 3:1-5
3 But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, 4 treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.
Effective Parenting in a Defective World by Chip Ingram
2. And Intentional Parenting by Doug Fields
Psalm 127:3-5
3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
are the children[a] of one's youth.
5 Blessed is the man
who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.[b]
Confidence
Character
Competence
Conviction
Confidence- That Our Children would feel Good about Themselves and They would know WHO they are Because of WHOSE they Are
Genesis 1:27
27 So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
1 John 3:1
3 See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.
2 Timothy 1:7
7 for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
Ephesians 6:4
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Character- That Our Children would have a Moral Compass of Values – making Decisions of Integrity, Informed by an Understanding of Right and Wrong
Proverbs 13:24
24 Whoever spares the rod hates his son,
but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.[a]
Godly Discipline is GUIDANCE with LOVE Not PUNISHMENT in ANGER
Proverbs 3:11-12
11 My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline
or be weary of his reproof,
12 for the Lord reproves him whom he loves,
as a father the son in whom he delights.
• PUNISHMENT’S PURPOSE- To Inflict Penalty for an Offense
• DISCIPLINE’S PUPROSE- To Train for Correction and Maturity
• PUNISHMENT’S ATTITUDE- Anger and Frustration on the Part of the Parent
• DISCIPLINE’S ATTITUDE- Love and Concern on the Part of the Parent
• PUNISHMENT’S RESULTS IN CHILDREN- Fear and Guilt
• DISCIPLINE’S RESULTS IN CHILDREN- Security and Character
Competence- That Our Children would be able to Function and Thrive knowing they have God-given gifts. Having developed some Skills, that they would become Effective Contributors to the world around them.
2 Thessalonians 3:10-12
10 For even when we were with you, we would give you this command: If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat. 11 For we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies. 12 Now such persons we command and encourage in the Lord Jesus Christ to do their work quietly and to earn their own living.[a]
Proverbs 21:25
25 The desire of the sluggard kills him,
for his hands refuse to labor.
Conviction- That Our Children would have Beliefs Grounded on Biblical Truths, Internalized to the Point of Intentional Action.
Proverbs 22:6
6 Train up a child in the way he should go;
even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Godly Parenting Requires You to PRACTICE what You PREACH
1 Corinthians 4:14-16
14 I do not write these things to make you ashamed, but to admonish you as my beloved children. 15 For though you have countless[a] guides in Christ, you do not have many fathers. For I became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel. 16 I urge you, then, be imitators of me.
Deuteronomy 6:4-7
4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a] 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
Confidence
Character
Competence
Conviction